Friends for the Sake of a Happier Relationship

Many relationships end in failure before both people can start the process of knowing each others likes or dislikes. what would be a way in which one person gets to know the other? in a perfectly way that they could avoid the long arguments and the many attempts that end up failing?. Friendship ensures that a romantic relationship will be stronger. cultivating friendship in a romantic relationship is what guaranties a happier relationship. a healthier relationship is not easy, and requires equal effort from both person, and many characteristics, which include communication, honesty, gratitude, the desire to support each other in every situation, trust and sincerity; characteristics that are mostly found in friends.
Honesty in a relationship is one of the most difficult values to cultivate in a love relationship, because is something that depends on many other qualities that have to be build up by time. Friends are honest to each other, and they tells what is right and wrong about something. “honesty is the first chapter in the book of wisdom”-Thomas Jefferson. when one person shares what is bothering him/her with the other person that brings them close to one another. friendship and honesty go together therefore a relationship with honesty means that at some point they were good friends or are working on this skills. if a relationship is full with dishonesty is intended to end in failure; lies hurt the relationship to the point in which one person can’t stand the other and thinking that everything that person says it’s a lie will bring the relationship to decay. a way in which partners can practice being honest it’s to tell everything that comes to their mind, not sharing small information can become not sharing important aspect of life. you got to remember honesty is the doorway to the human soul and heart.

In order for the love an passion in a relationship to grow over time, both partners must be willing to be known , and this means gradually disclosing their innermost selves, their desires, fears, fantasies, dreams....values passions, concerns and hopes” The Pursuit of Happiness (120) encouraging communication is something that a couple have to work on is not easy, and requires equal effort from both sides. “communication works for those who work at it.” good communication is the foundation of a rich relationship because is what determines whether the couple is ready to undergo any situation they have to face in life, for example one of the partners is experiencing family difficulties and requires a huge amounts of trust from one to the other to communicate this issues, but at the moment necessary because in a relationship one person is suppose to help the other, and give support. the time passes and the one that experiences family difficulties get stress out by this issues while the other gets frustrated because does not know what is going on; not understanding whats going on decides to terminated the relationship, by the time the other partner decides to explain the problems is going to be late because the communication has gone from poor to mean nothing. a healthy communication leads the relationship to be full of support to one and another, which in the example given is not a factor that helps the relationship to be successful because there is no communication therefore there is no support, if there is no support the relationship will fall to it’s foundation which it is only strong depending on how each one is able to handle this issues that hurt the relationship making it vulnerable to any other problems.

Having fun is one of the characteristics friendship has and why should it end after the first date or the many years together. happy couples are the ones that experience many activities together because they get to know the likes and dislikes of both, they know what to do what not to do and can know they will enjoy what the other proposes, also knowing what passionates your partner can give you hints on what or how satisfy your partner, take for example sports or traveling this are activities that shared together can add valuable moments which will increase the passion one feels for the other. as is said on The Pursuit of Happiness (121) “we cultivate intimacy by knowing and being known.....engaging activities that are meaningful and pleasurable to ourselves as well as to your partner.” after five years of relationship one partner does not want to find him/herself not knowing what the other partner likes, that’s why  first few years are to get to know the other person and sharing good moments; at one point is very meaningful that your partners surprises you with a plan of activities you enjoy doing and this will ensure the increase of love both partners share, also takes them out of the monotony and break them free from the routine.
In conclusion how you share your love is determine by the trustfulness in the relationship, and this can be only done by having communication, honesty, gratitude and the desire to support each other. that is why building a good friendship with you partner is important because you need to be able to have all this qualities to share and live important aspect in your life, also to ensure that the overcoming of obstacles can be fun and interesting to both partners. cultivating communication and honesty while spending time together creates a healthier relationship that will long last. “the love you give is equal to the love you receive.”